Tag: mom

Mom told me to get an “I have rabies” shirt for dads Christmas 😆 It really left an impression I guess lol. My dad is weird (and probably on the spectrum, as I also suspect grandpa was) and obviously passed down the “weird and autistic” gene to me 😭 We’re a lot alike, have a lot of the same tendencies, and like a lot of the same stuff. So of course he’d want one of my weird, off putting shirts. I’m going to order the parents Christmas presents next month, when my money is hopefully freed up by that loan. For the past two Christmases, dad’s gift came after the 25th. My mistake for not ordering soon enough. I’m getting mom shirts this year because she needs some different shit in her wardrobe! She never wears T-shirts anymore because I gave her a “makeover” 20 years ago because I thought she looked dorky, which is something, in hindsight of course, I should have embraced about her. 😕 She stuck to that makeover like superglue, unfortunately. Now I find her a bit stuffy. Maybe if she’ll wear a band tee, it’ll loosen her up a little lol. Is it even possible to be stuffy in a Queen or Beatles shirt?? I’m also trying to help her to be able to show her upper arms. She always wears 3/4 length sleeves in the boiling Carolina summer heat. I know that can’t be comfortable! She’s afraid to be judged because of the “wings” of loose skin as well as crepey skin. Mom, you’re 75. You look like you’re in your 50s!! Good grief, I’m 40 and have arm wings as well as crepey skin in some places. I want her to feel better about herself, and more fearless. I swear to god, every one of my peer supports and others as well have said “Your mom is so pretty!” Then I psych them out by informing them of her age and they don’t believe me 😆 I tell mom how everyone says how pretty she is. I’m not sure she believes me either 😕 I hate that she feels so mediocre about herself because she really is pretty and really does look about 20 years younger than she is. I don’t know, I’m just..trying to help her gain confidence. I want to help. Maybe I’m not helping right. I know how it feels to be insecure and I don’t want her to feel that way. This shit didn’t start until she hit her late 60s. Anyways, it’s up to her if she wears what I get her. I asked if she’d wear a tee and she gave me an annoyingly ambiguous answer. I don’t know whether to get her a female fit or unisex. We definitely aren’t similar when it comes to clothing.

Well, that turned into a big ramble. I write where my mind leads me lol. Which is usually a tangent 😅

So I’m getting dad the rabies shirt as well as a couple band shirts I haven’t decided on yet. I’m trying to find some of the bands he likes that he doesn’t already have a shirt of. The man definitely has more than enough AC/DC shirts. He has Pink Floyd and Lynyrd Skynyrd. He loves ABBA so I was hoping to find a good one on Etsy but they all said “dancing queen”. Dad’s not a dancing queen. 😬 Geez, men like them too, not just women! Make one that just says the name of the band ffs. I’m brainstorming over here. I don’t think I have enough brain to be successful though 😓

I must take a moment to say that iPhone keyboards SUCK especially in conjunction with WordPress. It’s a new level of craptastic. Autocorrect is recommending words and when I tap them, it will either use half the word or merge two words together (?!?) and I have to go back and fix a ton of crap when I post. Yeah. Sometimes I have to say it or I’ll defenestrate my phone. Right out the window lol.

I also wanted an excuse to say “defenestrate”. 😬 More people should punish their enemies by tossing them out of windows, truly.




I did it

I made the Temu haul video, all without showing my face. My phone made it hard to show it anyhow. I don’t know if I should get a tripod or something to kind of distance it from myself because you could hear everything, every fucking noise I make. Lip smacking, every breath etc. I mailed it to myself and have to edit it for YouTube. I’m going to put it on my art channel. Before I actually post any art haha. I’ll post it here when it’s done. I hope I’m not too annoying, I hope my voice isn’t stupid sounding. I thought it sounded okay. Sometimes I make stupid comments though lol. I might bleep out some of the dumb shit. I don’t know if I have the personality for YouTube honestly, I should stick to Temu hauls, gaming and art videos. Definitely not reaction stuff, oh no. I definitely don’t have the charisma. I never have that much to say to begin with as I’m a relatively quiet person. That probably doesn’t translate to YouTube well.

I had a crisis last night. All of a fucking sudden, I started thinking about what’s going to happen when mom isn’t here anymore. I was petrified. I cried and emailed her explaining what was going on. Mom is turning 75 this year!! How long do I have left with her? Women on her side of the family tend to live to their late nineties or even make it to one hundred. I hope it’s the same for her if she doesn’t get lung cancer from all the god damn smoking she does. In the email I said “and stop smoking!!!!!!!!!”. I was hoping it would trigger something in her to realise she has to quit. My friend (actually a friends mom but she was my friend as well) got lung cancer and passed away and it was just awful and sad and…I never want to see anyone else suffer like that, especially not one of my parents. I would be beyond devastated. “Emotionally Obliterated” are probably the best words to use. Smoking is a personal choice and I don’t think it should be banned or anything, I just know it hurts people and they need to know it could hurt them…and I have the right to bug her to quit because I love her. I used to smoke when I was 16/17 but quit without any problems. I just don’t know why she can’t. I’ve tried to get dad to quit too, he exclusively vaped for many years but suddenly started smoking again! Mom quit for a couple years and suddenly started back again too. I don’t understand the allure of it, sure it looks cool in photos and drawings, I’m not gonna pretend it doesn’t, but it tastes like shit! Any kind of respiratory problem scares the shit out of me so lung cancer is terrifying. I don’t know what it feels like to have it obviously but I imagine it’s awful! I don’t want anyone I love to go through it. Again.

That was a huge ramble and I don’t know if it made sense. I guess I’m still a little bit upset.

Edit: She did spend some extra time with me today. We went to Boulevard BBQ, got some river chips with ranch and talked for a while. It was pleasant. I really love my mom even if we don’t always agree. She said she was going to work on a plan for me for after she’s gone, because dad can’t deal with things the way she does and I certainly can’t. I love dad but if it was just me and him, we’d both be screwed haha. The day ended on a good note and I feel somewhat better.




Ffs!!

My mother is a rude and often ignorant person. If she gets angry and we’re in the car, she absolutely guns it and goes well over the speed limit, putting the two of us as well as others in danger. I tell her to stop, and she will say something like “I will speed if I wish”. All because I called her while she was in the store and she picks up and says “WHAT.” In the rudest way possible. I ask her why she spoke to me that way because it really bothers me, and she actually had the balls to deny it O_o like…you literally just…never mind. /sigh

I do not know how to interact with this stranger anymore. We were having a relatively nice day until that happened. We went and got my bloodwork done (8 vials ugh) and then to a thrift store where I got three shirts. Then to McDonalds because I was absolutely starving. I had emailed her last night because I wanted to make sure we could pick up some nails because I was motivated to hang some pictures and this just made her mad or whatever. She apparently did not want to go get nails, so she starts acting like that.

Being around her is about as fun as explosive diarrhea these days. I mean, sometimes we do get along fine, but other times…

I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m terrified Medicare will suddenly stop paying for my peer support services at A Caring Alternative and I won’t have my peer and individual support people anymore to take me out to do stuff and also help me with other things mom can’t or won’t do. I’ll be stuck with JUST HER again. Which was one reason I wound up in the hospital….total isolation. That was my life. No one but my parents. They were the only people I was really around and I was so closed off from the rest of the world….if that happens again…I don’t know what I’ll do. I don’t think ACA knows just how much I need them and what’s at stake.




I just bought a pack of Niosh approved n95 masks for my mom. The situation with my godmother has made me so incredibly paranoid about her catching it and ending up like her best friend. I have just been lying here in bed all night, unable to sleep because I’m thinking about them both.

I have never been able to view my mom as an “old person”, even though she claims to be one. She’s 71 and looks to be in her 50s. I guess now I have to accept that she’s a (young) old person. 71 is still young to me honestly. When someone around that age passes away, I always say “but they’re too young to die”.

I’m so messed up in the head right now. It’s a nasty mixture of fear and trepidation. 😔




Holy shit. Mom had a random attack of vertigo driving down the mountain. I had to grab the steering wheel and keep her from driving into oncoming traffic. I eventually got her to pull over and she was messed up. I was really worried! I had to drive the rest of the way down the mountain, through town (which I really don’t like to do) and to get some food. I’m a pretty good, careful driver and she actually said she was proud of me for being calm and taking control.

I told her I didn’t want her to drive home after getting to my apartment but she’s stubborn and drove home herself. I made her text me when she got home. I was so relieved. But I still worry about her driving by herself. What if I hadn’t been there? Would she have hit a car coming head on? I don’t even want to think about it. >_>


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